.:Shimmer & Smooch: A Teen Girl's Guide:.
I have a bit of a problem. I'm in love with a guy who's 5 years older than me. He's absolutely the greatest guy in the world. He's gorgeous (dark brown hair, deep blue eyes), sweet (he loves animals!), intelligent, and, well, perfect! The age difference is just so much, though. I'm almost 15 and he's 20. What's your advice?
A Worried Teen Girl
Wow. That's a pretty big age difference. Although it seems the older you get, the less you think about the age thing in relationships. Anyways, this guy sounds so cool! I say go for it! lol. Jenny! I can't think of anything!!! (I wrote another below.) Maybe I'll just check a magazine and look for an answer in there..Oh by the way, the one below actually happened to me! (well, not EXACTLY) read it!
I think I am in love with this guy who goes to the HS that I am going to go next year (He's 16, I'm 14). He is my neighbor and SO COOL! He even likes me! Only one of my other neighbors, who happens to be one of my best friends, has a major crush on him. There was no way we could like the same guy. Because she was closer in age to him, I tried to let it go. Then he asked me out. (About a zillion times!) I haven't answered because I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings, but at the same time I really like this guy. What should I do?
Wondering What To Do
It's normal to have a crush on an older guy. Sometimes it seems like the guys the same age as you are too immature at times. (I know how you feel!) But also take in to consideration your friend. She feels the same way you do! Would you like it if she went out with him leaving you jealous? I doubt it. Friends must be the most important thing in the entire world. Boyfriends are nice, but friends are way more important! They stick around for much longer.
Thank you SO much for your advice! It turns out the guy that I liked so much was a big jerk. I took your advice and said no going out with him and the next day my friend and I saw him making out with another chick in the movie theater! We confronted him and the girl he was with dumped him and can to hang with us! It was the funniest thing! LOL. Now the three of us are the best of friends!
No Longer Wondering!! (aka: Wondering What To Do)